People involved in sexual harassment often find themselves confronted with behavior they cannot comprehend. Victims are wondering why the harasser is behaving in a way that is so offensive to them and why they cannot get him to stop; alleged harassers are wondering why someone they trusted would turn against them and unfairly accuse them; colleagues are trying to understand why the victim did not defend herself better; partners are asking themselves why the investigation of the incidence apparently takes forever; and friends are wondering why the victim makes such a big deal of the episode instead of simply moving on with life.
Understanding Sexual Harassment
One goal for this website is to contribute to a better understanding of what goes on during a typical incidence of sexual harassment, and what motivates the behavior of the main “players”. We are striving towards a balanced view that is fair to all the parties involved. We would hope that you, the reader, will feel encouraged to share some of your unique experiences with sexual harassment with us, because a truly accurate picture of what sexual harassment is like can emerge only if many different people with different views and expertise contribute to this site.
Building a Community For Healing
Sexual harassment can be a very painful experience, and often those involved feel isolated from their friends, colleagues, or community in general. Our goal for this website is to provide a forum for all those concerned about sexual harassment. We want this website to be a place where they can voice their concerns, share their experiences, and find a community where they feel understood.
Educating the Public About Sexual Harassment
Finally, we hope this website can contribute to raising awareness. While many potential harassers are informed what behavior is acceptable and what is not, most do not understand how devastating the experience can be for the victim. In other words, they realize harassment is illegal but they nevertheless consider it rather harmless.
This attitude, which also seems to resonate with the general public, cannot be changed by any policy or law. It can only change if victims overcome their shame and speak out. Victims honestly sharing their experiences may be the most effective way of preventing sexual harassment, or at least reducing its prevalence.